Dear Y.M.C.A. :: ideas on living up to our name – for all

Dear Y.M.C.A. ::
Can we shine a light on the ways Christians can intentionally and inclusively strengthen the presence of Christ in the Y?

What if we gauged how well we are doing by listening to those who see the world differently than us?

Does it matter that we might see the world through different cultural lens and experience reality through different dimensions of diversity?

Can we still celebrate the complexity?

Can we and keep enduring together in a creative and sacrificial way?

Can we keep striving together towards flourishing for all?

This past week a member of our Central Branch YMCA passed away, he had been a member of the Y for over 80 years. What changes he must have seen in our organization! It makes my almost six years with the YMCA seem like a drop in the bucket.

When Phil joined the Y as a kid eight decades ago in Fort Wayne, we were much smaller, only in the urban part of the city, and had a very different logo from the one we have now.

Maybe we take for granted how much the world changed in the past eighty years, how tumultuous the eighty years prior to that had been, and even now we feel like the next eighty might be full of even more rapid change.

Somehow through the past seventeen decades of unprecedented historical and global upheavals, the YMCA has endured, adapted, and found ways to survive and serve their community successfully.

But like with any significant institution, there is a regular need to patch up our foundations, to nourish our roots, to remember how we got started, and both celebrate the origins story but also seriously contemplate how we embody it in these days, vigorously reflect on what is the kernel of truth and reality that we hold on to from our past and how does it become a cornerstone for future construction of our mission, how it becomes new seeds for a new harvest of faith, hope and love among millions more members.

Here’s a brief example of how the letters of our name – Y.M.C.A. – demonstrate a way we can honestly and respectfully remember and honor our origins, while at the same time revealing a starting point for how we have come to try – and failed – to responsibly care for all in our community.

Y.M.

Y.M. : Young Men – the origins of our organization in 1844 industrial London is the story of 22 year old George Williams and eleven other young men who felt burdened for the lost and struggling co-workers in their drapery factory and their resolve to do something about it.

C.

C. : George and his friends were Christian young men, British Protestant evangelicals – some from the Anglican tradition and others from the Presbyterian, Methodist and Dissenters – but they all held a common loyalty to Jesus Christ and felt called to not only save the souls of the other men like them in the factory, but to rescue them from dark abodes and illiteracy, from the vice-full saloons and fatherlessness, from despair to a new Christian mission and purpose for their life.

A.

A. : the Association work of Williams and the others was strengthened and nourished by their friendship, their commitment to associate on a regular schedule for each others encouragement and growth in Christian faith and wisdom – this in age of displacement, emigration, urban-industrialism, cultural upheaval, and economic disparity.

Some reflections on what this can mean for today:

Y. : youth-development is a key word for the purpose and existence of our organization – out of all the different ages of people we serve in a community, we know that most branches brag the most about their youth work, that without young people in the Y we’d have a too-quiet place that would feel like its not living up to its calling as the Y.

But, we have also vigorously pursued adults of every age – from the early decades of the Y’s existence – the young men in their twenties who started the Y became seasoned leaders in their 40’s and then 60’s, all along the way adapting the purpose and programs of the Y for older and older men.

And also younger men, eventually – almost literally inventing – teen mentoring and programs for all children.

We are nothing without our youth, we will never be able to live up to our name if we abandon youth-work or falter in our commitment to transform the lives of young-people – but we also know that we must serve adults of every age – especially the ones who directly affect the future of our youth.

M. : it was men laboring in the monotony of the drapery factory, verging on despair, who resolved to help out their fellow man through prayer, friendship, Christian religious activity, and social responsibility.

Even in those first decades Christian women were drawn to this work – of coming alongside men in the dark and helping them see the light, and then also finding ways for lifting up women who were lost and struggling.

The conversation has been ongoing since those early days: the ways that women are an essential part of the YMCA – a companionship and collaboration that has needed constant care, honest reflection, respectful apologies, and responsible maturing.

The YMCA has a legacy it ought to leverage for what it has learned along the way for how men and women can lead, care and serve together – not because it was perfect, but because they allowed critique, they put themselves in a position where the inequities could not be ignored and those with a fire in their bones would not let it drop, and kept the struggle going for more caring and honest mutuality, more respect by men for women who also shared the responsibility of our mission as the Y.

It’s not a surprise that there were/are those in the Y that resist the role of women in our organization, what we ought not to take for granted is those who persevered nonetheless.

C. : it is obvious that if not for the Protestant Christian faith and God’s calling of George Williams and his eleven friends, our Y.M.C.A. organization would have never gotten started.

No amount of downplaying the role of religion in society can undo the foundations that Christianity provides for the YMCA.

It is a massive foundation for what we have been building since 1844; the roots run deep and tenaciously grip the ground for the mighty YMCA tree that has been reaching into the skies these past seventeen decades.

Rather than making religion and Christianity a scapegoat for what ails us as a society, what if we found a way to be more responsibly honest about our evangelical Christian beginnings and foundation, and then respectfully and care-fully critique it while also gleaning the abundant wisdom that is there for the unprecedented challenges we face in the century ahead – a future that will always have vibrant religion- but will it also have Christian peacemakers and religious bridge-builders?

The YMCA has a national and global heritage of forging reconciliation and understanding between the many different kinds of Christian traditions as well as between the global faith-traditions.

If we drop the “C” in our name, if we choose to forget where we came from, we drain ourselves of the energy and identity the world needs from the Y right now – an organization with a Christian legacy and roots that uniquely works for peace among the intensely religious leaders and families of our community – for there will always be those who foment violence and use religion to hurt people – but where will the Y be on this urgent reality?

There are so many inclusive Christian Y leaders working hard every day to help us fulfill our mission that includes “building healthy spirit, mind and body for all” – rather than focusing on Christians who are perceived or vocal about their resistance to being “for all” what if we focused on all of the inclusive Christians that are doing this hard work everyday – and rather than make the “C” an object of division it became a sign of our humble and noble calling to serve everyone with sacrificial love?

What could Christians in the Y do to help their case?

Instead of pressing for more privileges or complaining about perceived restrictions, just do the best you can to bless everyone you are with in the Y and the community, do it out of your loyalty to Christ Jesus and for the joy of all who are in your sphere of influence.

Christians must learn how to honestly but responsibly live out their faith in public – not only amongst different kinds of Christians (ie Protestants and Catholics, liberals and conservatives, charismatic and liturgical, etc) but also respectfully and caringly with those of of there faith traditions – like our Jewish and Muslim family, our Buddhist and Hindu family, and many more. What could that look like?

A. : for all of our Associations, America is still one of the loneliest countries in the world, we more depressed and isolated than almost any other nation – rugged individualism for too many has become ruts of self-absorption.

Community leaders have been crying out at the lack of volunteers who are needed in our schools and local governments to help ensure safety and sustainability for all – schools are desperate for positive school involvement – youth sports needs coaches – neighbors need each other – but instead of associations that build our communities up we struggle to overcome the temptation of isolation and selfishness.

The A in our name – our ability and actions of associating and organizing can be an asset for constructively and creatively bringing together diverse groups of people that strengthens neighborhoods and friendships – or it can be a way for us to make money off of programs and keep our buildings open, but be cut off from the need in our community for organizations to nourish the coming together of people that empowers flourishing for all.

Many non-profits learn that if you have a money problem, it’s because you have a mission problem – mission drift often results from focusing on how to get more money to do more mission; the solution is spending more time with the people we are serving and serving with and continually adapting our resources to their benefit, their capacity for freedom and empowerment, lifting up their strengths and abilities so that they have the support they need to envision even more ways we can associate that nourishes flourishing for all.

What happens when millions more people associate with the the Y.M.C.A. but don’t cleanly fit in with the Y, with the M, with the C, and with the A?

Every organization that grows rapidly has to continually discuss and adapt how to keep their core while also expanding who they are for – and at the heart of the Y.M.C.A. is a worthy origins story – and legendary heros – that our world needs to benefit from today more than ever – but not in a restrictive way, but in an open way, since that was marked their life too – always reaching out to “take the stranger by the hand” and bring them closer so that they become neigbhors, friends, and co-laborers in our work.

When older members complain about the unruly youth in our branch, though we are tempted to come down hard on those teens, what we know we really ought to do is invite those easily-irritated grown ups to draw closer to these young adults that are acting up in order to get attention – that is why the Y is here – to draw closer to the teens who need it most.

When men in the organization think to highly of themselves, when they are too guarded or prideful, when their competition and work-a-holic attitudes get in the way of the true mission of the YMCA, do we castigate the men and seek to replace them or engage them and confront them and lovingly draw close in order to help them mature?

When men in the Y get pouty and passive-aggressive, when they get easily offended and complaining, when they get self-absorbed or melancholy, does that mean we look down on them or draw closer?

Just as there will always be a central role for youth in the YMCA, so there will always be a central role for men.

What about when Christians in our movement get in the way of equity and inclusion?

What about Christians who you know are bigoted and prejudiced?

What about Christians who seem to resist change and are uncomfortable with diversity?

What about Christians who get on your nerves and easily offend you?

And what about all the inclusive Christians who are quietly doing the work of youth development, healthy living and social responsibility in a caring, honest, respectful and resonsibile way?

What about all the Christians that are at the fore-front of the YMCA becoming an anti-racist and multi-cutulral organization?

There have always been Christians in the YMCA who have resisted change and inclusion; but there have always been Christians who have fomented the change for greater diversity, inclusion and equity – so many of them are among the leaders that have helped us continue not only learn how to be “for all” but more importantly “with all.”

What about branches that have forgotten how to work together?

What about associations that disregard neighboring associations?

What about parts of our movement that seem to be against others?

What happens when there are divisions in our movement between big city associations and small town branches?

What happens when diverse community branches are misunderstood by mono-culture branches?

What happens when financially successful associations and branches turn their back on struggling ones?

As an association, we have so many ways we’ve failed each other – mostly because we are all too human; but we also have amazing stories of resiliency and sacrifice for each other across our country and the world.

What would it look like for more of our alliances in the USA movement to become stronger – not only for our most vulnerable branches and associations, but also for global movements that we are called to love, serve and care? Thank God we already have examples of this happening!

What if our associating efforts not only deepen our ability to engage the most broken communities in our regions, but also connect us to the most hurting places across the world?

What if our associations continued to enter into difficult relationships in order to learn from each other humbly, repenting as often as needed, and demonstrating a sacrificial love that our neighbors and world so desperately need, and that was a model for George Williams and his friends when they started building the foundation of the Y.M.C.A.

Dear Y.M.C.A. :: let’s shine a light on the ways Christians can intentionally and inclusively strengthen the presence of Christ in the Y. How? We can gauge how well we are doing by listening to those who see the world differently than us – and though we might see the world through different cultural lens and experience reality through different dimensions of diversity we can still celebrate the complex and enduring, creative and sacrificial ways we together keep striving towards flourishing for all.

Revolutionary Christianity in the USA: Jacques Ellul and the YMCA – ways to be faithful amidst the chaos…

“The Christian can never regard himself as being on the winning side, nor can he look on with pleasure while everyone else goes to perdition; should he do so, he would be lacking in the Spirit of Christ, and by that very fact he would cease to be a Christian”

Looking back now, reflecting on the infamy of January 6, 2021, like many American citizens I find the times to be disturbing – and asking myself: what are better ways for Christians to participate in politics (as it really is in America) and engage in public service (health, education, justice, arts, etc.) in a way that is faithful to the Lord Jesus Christ but not duped by political/economic ideologies which are marked by insidious violence and justifying the means (usually in a downward, mimetic, rivalrous, spiral)?

Is there a role for virtue and character?

Common bonds of solidarity and neighborliness?

Sacrificial love and healing truth?

Taking the high road and defusing antagonisms?

What does it look like to humbly imitate Christ in this politically toxic era?

And how does the “C” in the YMCA grow healthier and stronger amidst these contentious and all too often embarrassing public actions by Christians in the public square?

Rather than go mute or get louder, who can be a helpful guide for Christians in the YMCA who want to authentically live out their faith publicly as caring servant-leaders for all?

This book by Jacques Ellul – The Presence of the Kingdom – is a modern classic; it was forged in the fires of oppression in World War 2 by one who participated in the French Resistance, an atheist who converted to Christ, a brilliant lawyer and small-town pastor and activist, there is much that Ellul can teach YMCA leaders on ways to put their faith into practice amidst turbulent times.

The following comments and quotes are adapted from a post I originally published on a personal blog in February 2013; I find that it still rings true almost a decade later…

“In focusing more and more on what Jesus taught about the Kingdom of God, there is some new imagination required for what that would look like in Fort Wayne, Indiana.

Especially when being a pastor in a community results in potential political activity.

I am disillusioned with our political reality in the USA, disappointed in how popular Christianity has aligned itself with politics in order to protect their assets, their power, their position, and their rights.

There is within me an instinctive repulsion to pastors and politics; there has to be a better alternative to posturing and press statements?

How to think about being a pastor and involved in politics without ending up as a pawn or a populist?

In these days of searching and listening, I turn again to Jacques Ellul.

I found the following paragraphs from The Presence of the Kingdom to be immensely challenging and provoking to me as I seek confirmation of God’s leading in my life’s work.

My interests and skills and calling have lead me into social and political issues; in my vocation as a pastor, as a Christian leader, there is some inner questioning whether this direction is appropriate.

In seeking some kind of justification or spiritual foundation for what I sense to be right, knowing there is no utopia, Ellul is most helpful – what I quote below from him has been formative for me, challenging, and hopeful:

Jacques Ellul (b. January 6, 1912 / d. May 19, 1994)

“The Christian can never regard himself as being on the winning side, nor can he look on with pleasure while everyone else goes to perdition; should he do so, he would be lacking in the Spirit of Christ, and by that very fact he would cease to be a Christian.

Bound up with the lives of other men (be economic and sociological laws, and also by the will of God), he cannot accept the view that they will always remain in their anguish and their disorder, victims of tyranny and overwork, buoyed up only by a hope which seems unfounded.

Thus he must plunge into social and political problems in order to have an influence on the world, not in the hope of making a paradise, but simply in order to make it tolerable – not in order to diminish the opposition between this world and the Kingdom of God, but simply in order to modify the opposition between the disorder of this world and the order of preservation that God wills for it – not in order to ‘bring in’ the Kingdom of God, but in order that the gospel may be proclaimed, that all men may really hear the good news of salvation, through the death and resurrection of Christ.

Thus there are three directions in which the Christian ought to action the world:

First – starting from the point at which God has revealed to him the truth about the human person, he must try to discover the social and political conditions in which this person can live and develop in accordance with God’s order.

Second – this person will develop within a certain framework which God has ordained for him.

This is the order of preservation, without which man lacks his true setting.

Man is not absolutely free in this sphere, any more than he is free in the physical or biological domain.

There are certain limits which he cannot overstep without danger to the society to which he belongs.

Thus the Christian must work, in order that the will of God may be incarnated in actual institutions and organisms.

Third – this order of preservation will have meaning only if it is directed towards the proclamation of salvation.

Therefore, social and political institutions need to be ‘open’: that is, they must not claim to be all, or absolutes.

Thus they must be constituted in such a way that they do not prevent man from hearing the Word of God.

The Christian must be ceaselessly on the watch – intelligent and alert – to see that this ‘order’ is preserved.

But, in doing so, he will find that he is confronted by two possible errors.

The one error consists in believing that by constant progress in this order we shall attain the Kingdom of God.

It is enough to remind ourselves of the Book of Revelation, or of Matthew 24, to condemn this attitude.

The other error arises out of the conviction that by achieving certain reforms we shall have reached this order which God wills.

In reality all solutions – all economic, political, and other achievements – are temporary.

At no moment can the Christian believe either in their perfection or in their permanence.

They are always vitiated by the sin which infects them, by the setting in which they take place.

Thus the Christian is constantly obliged to reiterate the claims of God, to reestablish this God-willed order, in presence of an order that constantly tends towards disorder.

In consequence of the claims which God is always making on the world the Christian finds himself, by that very fact, involved in a state of permanent revolution.

Even when the institutions, the laws, the reforms which he has advocated have been achieved, even if society is reorganized according to his suggestions, he still has to be in opposition, he still must require more, for the claim of God is as infinite as His forgiveness.

Thus the Christian is called to question unceasingly all that man calls progress, discovery, facts, established results, reality, etc.

He can never be satisfied with all this human labor, transcended, or replaced by something else.

In his judgment he is guided by the Holy Spirit – he is making an essentially revolutionary act.

If the Christian is not being revolutionary, then in some way or another he has been unfaithful to his calling in the world.”

Jacques Ellul, The Presence of the Kingdom, pgs 35-37

Which quote sticks with you as illuminating or provocative or hopeful?

What insight does it provide to you on how Christian’s can engage publicly – as people of faith – while leading and serving amidst the tumult?

Love Abides: Matt’s Death Day 20 Years Later…

“As you grieve and mourn the deaths in your life, may you learn to abide in love. We may not get to choose our death day, but we do get to choose to abide in love all the days we have left. That’s what I’m choosing to learn to do on Matt’s day.”

[I originally wrote this post in 2014, and have republished it here with some slight adaptions. It’s all still true for me…and may you be encouraged by it, to abide in love – for what marvelous strength it has to reconcile and heal!]

December 30th is Matt’s Day in our home.

He died on this day at age 23 in 2001.

He was killed by a drunk driver speeding down the wrong way on I69 between I469 and the Dupont South exit in Fort Wayne, Indiana.

Matt was home on leave from the Army base Fort Bliss in El Paso Texas where he served as a cook.

Matt at Quartermaster graduation at Fort Lee, Virginia (2001)

We think of him almost every time we drive past that spot. Which is often.

Over the many years we’ve done a variety of things on this day to remember him.

Today I wore his old Montreal Canadiens NHL jersey. And listened to Rusted Root, Weezer, Wallflowers, and DMB in his honor.

I also make a point to sit and reflect about life and death, love and forgiveness, meaning and hope.

I’ve not always handled well the tragic death of my little brother Matt. Or Ben, who died in 1994; or my Dad who succumbed to brain cancer in 2012.

Matt and our little brother Ben (1993)

Thoughts of his death can easily fuel morose musings of the meaninglessness of life, even for me as a life-long Christian and pastor.

The writings of Kierkegaard have been an essential friend and guide in the many years since the deaths of Ben and Matt, my Dad, my Uncle Lynn, my cousin Lon, my father in law Jim, and now my brother in law Jamil.

You’d think that death ends the love brothers have for each other.

But St. Paul writes that “love abides.”

What does that mean for those that protest death and grieve the dead?

Kierkegaard writes words that kindle hope for a love that abides, in this life and the next:

The one who truly loves never falls away from love.

He can never reach the breaking point.

Yet, is it always possible to prevent a break in a relationship between two persons, especially when the other has given up?

One would certainly not think so. Is not one of the two enough to break the relationship?

In a certain sense it is so.

But if the lover is determined to not fall away from love, he can prevent the break, he can perform this miracle; for if he perseveres, a total break can never really come to be.

By abiding, the one who loves transcends the power of the past.

He transforms the break into a possible new relationship, a future possibility.

The lover who abides belongs to the future, to the eternal.

From the angle of the future, the break is not really a break, but rather a possibility.

But the powers of the eternal are needed for this.

The lover must abide in love, otherwise the heartache of the past still has the power to keep alive the break.

from Works Of Love, by Kierkegaard

It is too easy to let hate and bitterness rule my heart in response to the senseless death of my brother.

It’s been hard work to make sense of his tragedy and let love reign over it.

There were regrets I had about our relationship.

I wanted to be a better big brother.

I should have been there for him more. More present and interested in him.

I was busy launching my own life, getting married, finishing up school, starting a church.

I was there for some of his big moments. But not for any of the little ones.

It’s been difficult to figure out what kind of future I can have with my dead brother when the years preceding his death were seeds for regret after his funeral.

Again, Kierkegaard helpfully writes:

The whole thing depends upon how the relationship is regarded, and the lover – he abides.

Can anyone determine how long a silence must be in order to say, now there is no more conversation?

Put the past out of the way; drown it in the forgiveness of the eternal by abiding in love.

Then the end is the beginning and there is no break!

But the one who loves abides. “I will abide,” he says. “Therefore we are still on the path of life together.”

And is this not so? What marvelous strength love has!

The most powerful word that has ever been said, God’s creative word, is: “Be.”

But the most powerful word any human being has ever said is, “I abide.”

Reconciled to himself and to his conscience, the one who loves goes without defense into the most dangerous battle.

He only says: “I abide.” But he will conquer, conquer by his abiding.

There is no misunderstanding that cannot be conquered by his abiding, no hate that can ultimately hold up to his abiding – in eternity if not sooner.

If time cannot, at least the eternal shall wrench away the other’s hate.

Yes, the eternal will open his eyes for love.

In this way love never fails – it abides.

from Works Of Love, by Kierkegaard

May these Christ-centered words of Kierkegaard impart a fresh perspective on the breaches of love in your life.

As you grieve and mourn the deaths in your life, may you learn to abide in love, in imitation of Jesus.

Death will come for us all.

We may not get to choose our death day, but we do get to choose to abide in love all the days we have left.

That’s what I’m choosing to learn to do on Matt’s day.

Love abides.

Matt, 2000

[I originally wrote this post in 2014, and have republished it here with some slight adaptions. It’s all still true for me…and may you be encouraged to abide in love – for what marvelous strength it has to reconcile and heal!]