Tag: Faithfulness

You Are What You Remember

Memories make us who we are.

The memories you hold on to, record, photograph, retell, shape who you become.

We know that humans equate perception to reality. We participate in reality based on what we choose to remember. These chosen memories shape how we perceive ourselves, our family, our marriage, our children, friends, work, church, neighborhood, our county, etc.

For some of us, we have a disposition to only remember the sunny stuff, that which makes us smile, look good, and be happy. Others of us tend to remember what went wrong, what we regret, and how life has not gone how we wanted it.

Remembering is also a central part of the Christian scriptures. 

The Eucharist, or what Christians also call Communion and the Lord’s Supper is given to us by Christ Jesus as a way to remember him, the gospel, and his call on our life to follow him. We read Scripture to remember God. It’s how we become Christians, “remembering” the stories that came before us to make it possible now to have a life in communion with Christ.

The New Testament Gospels and Epistles are shaped by memories, written by Christians to remember the life, ministry, crucifixion, resurrection and ascension of the Lord Jesus and the acts of the apostles across the Middle East, Europe, Asia, and Africa.

In the Gospel according to the apostle Matthew, he includes some of the story of Judas betraying Jesus at the Passover Meal. The story of betrayal is fascinating and heart-breaking, and by remembering it, we learn more about the depths of Jesus faithfulness to his disciples and his forgiveness of our sins.

St. Paul writes to Christians in Rome, a collection of believers made up of Jewish merchants and synagogue attenders, Greek and Roman citizens, and those from many different tribes and socio-economic classes – soldiers, slaves, barbarians, the poor and crippled, reminding them: “Contribute to the needs of the saints; extend hospitality to strangers. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them.”

What do the Christians in Rome choose to remember about the poor among them? That they are children of God or lazy? What do they decide to recall about strangers? That they are to be feared or to be given hospitality? What do they recollect about their enemies? That they are to be punished or to be blessed?

Our memories of Jesus will shape what we bring to mind about the poor, strangers, and enemies.

Memories aren’t passive though, they don’t just randomly come to surface, and you are not beholden to what you “happen” to remember. You can do memory work, and you can choose what to emphasize when you remember an event.

There are no “neutral” or “natural” rememberings – all memories are biased, edited, and distorted in some way.

That’s why remembering in community can be so powerful, retelling shared memories helps you remember elements you had forgotten, misunderstood, or edited in such a way that they are now wiser and encouraged because of what others remembered alongside you.

This is central to the Christian practice of Communion, and why it is central to our worship gatherings in church. 

You are what you remember. The YMCA. Church. Home. Neighborhoods. Nations.

You get to choose alot of what you remember.

Becoming grateful for what you remember – in an honest, courageous, humble way – helps you accept yourself and what has happened in your life.

This is important to confessing and repenting, to making amends, and helping heal who you’ve wronged and what’s been broken.

We don’t have to like the pain and suffering that we remember.

But if want it to become a part of our Christian story such that it fuels courage, resiliency, and loving-kindness, then we need to learn to accept what we remember with gratitude and submit it to the Lord (like Matthew and Paul in the New Testament).

The stories you remember and choose to tell around the table, at work, on long car rides, relaxing on vacation, during family celebrations powerfully shape who you are, and obviously how people see and understand you.

We are what we remember. 

Remember faithfulness. 

 

 

What Can You Do When They Believe In You?

Belief is powerful. When you believe in someone, when you have faith in them, what is it that you are doing? You are affirming their credibility and integrity. You are empowering their capacity for doing more good. You are infusing their identity with joy.

When you entrust someone with your belief, loyalty and allegiance, you are opening up new possibilities for flourishing in the world you inhabit.

I served on the Student Senate my sophomore year at Huntington University. Since I was a Bible & Religion major, I volunteered for the Spirituality Committee, which was tasked with helping improve our mandatory chapel experience for students. (At our small Christian college you had to go X amount each semester). We wanted to make it more engaging and student-led. Our subcommittee helped draft an idea that with modifications was approved.

When it came time to appoint a leader for the new student-led chapel on Wednesday nights, I was asked to lead it. To which I emphatically said, “No!”

This seemed like too big of a leadership challenge for me, and I really was afraid of all the work that it would require to make it successful. I liked the idea, and I really liked the idea of somebody else making it happen.

I’ll be forever indebted to the campus chaplain Bill Fisher for encouraging me to apply for this leadership role. He  believed in me when I didn’t. It changed the course of my life. Bill had faith in me, which empowered me to see and do things that I hadn’t thought possible.

When you believe in people, you unleash new possibilities for the flourishing of souls and places and organizations. And when you don’t believe in people, when you don’t pour faithfulness and trust into them (because you don’t pay attention or don’t want to get involved) – well that’s when hope dies and possibilities wither.

This happened to Jesus. In a pivotal story of the gospel, Mark tells of Jesus returning to his hometown of Nazareth with all of his disciples. This should have been a homecoming of great honor for Jesus and the village. It started off well, with Jesus as a revered Teacher and famously powerful Prophet in the synagogue on the Sabbath reading from the Torah and giving brilliant commentary on it. “…many who heard him were amazed.”

But then something happened, maybe they got a little jealous, whatever it was, “they took offense at him.” They didn’t believe in Jesus anymore, they resented him; and this prevented him from doing any miracles there, he was only able to “lay his hands on a few sick people and heal them. He was amazed at their lack of faith [in him].”

If Jesus is vulnerable to the power of belief, we obviously are too.

Think about what this means for your close family and friends? Sometimes they can be the hardest ones to believe in, because you know so much about them, maybe been hurt too much, it’s become too complicated. Something similar happened to Jesus when he went home after accomplishing great things for his nation. “A prophet is not without honor except in his own town, among his relatives and in his own home.”

But you know what? Jesus didn’t give up on his people, his family and friends, or his enemies. He didn’t quit believing in them, didn’t quit being faithful to them, even though they had quit believing in him. So what eventually happened?

We know that anxious Mary the mother of Jesus stayed at the foot of the cross during his execution, risking her own life to be there with her condemned son until the very end.

Unbelieving James the brother of Jesus would become the leading bishop of Jerusalem in the new church and became known as “old camel knees” because of all the time he spent in prayer, like his big brother Jesus used to do.

You want to heal and change the life of those you live or work with? Tell them you believe in them.

Imagine how your life would be empowered if more people looked you in the eye and said, “I believe in you.” Now go and do likewise.