A Prayer for YMCA Leaders : when we feel lost, in error and without life

In those moments, when as a YMCA leader you feel overwhelmed, adrift, lost in your spirit, alone in your anxiety, yearning to have the lifelessness of your Y transformed into vibrant energy – this prayer of Kierkegaard is for you.

“Father in heaven, let your voice come to me, be heard by me, even though it overtake me where I live secluded and alone.

You, my Lord Jesus Christ, you who came into the world to save those who were lost, look for me even in my errors where I hide myself from you and from others; let me hear your voice, let me know and follow it.

You, O Holy Spirit, breathe for me in inexpressible sighs, bring life to me though I am a barren tree.

You who bears again to life those who are already dead, you who gives youth to the aged, create in me a new heart.

You who with motherly care protects everything in which there is a spark of life, send forth the growth that you would have for me.”

based on/adapted from “The Prayers of Kierkegaard,” no 47 by Ole Anthony

Using our YMCA Core Values to stir up our spirit and mind, to rattle us and convict us, to encourage and guide us, authenticity is more about responsible honesty than unencumbered identity-declarations, about caring for ourself and others in a mutually respectful way.

Our authenticity ought to stimulate not just boundaries on who we think we are, but humility about who we really are, which includes the darkness alongside the light, the good and evil intertwined within us, the beautiful and ugly that is us.

In the YMCA our leadership is often defined by our character, our programs are successful when stories emerge of how the character-building emphasis worked; as my friend Dave at the Parkview Family YMCA quips: “transformed people transform people.”

Spiritual authenticity is more than just declaring what you believe about spirituality and expecting respect for it, it’s actually being honest and responsible for your own spirit, it’s health, and how it is doing in reality, in real life.

It’s about taking responsibility for the health of your spirit and doing the work so that it grows in its capacity to care for all in a mutually respectful way.

Authentic spirituality which doesn’t expand in its capacity to love is just a clanging gong or clashing symbols out of tune with reality.

At the YMCA, when we are authentic about our origins, about our motivations for why we got started, about the foundation we build on, about the roots which nourish our growth, it also requires honesty about the failures and hurts that have come through the YMCA. not just institutionally, but personally – the Y is all about people and building a healthy spirit, mind and body for all using Christian principles in practical ways. And for all the times we get it right, someone can point to ways we didn’t.

In those moments, when as a YMCA leader you feel authentically overwhelmed, adrift, lost in your spirit, alone in your anxiety, yearning to have the lifelessness of your Y transformed into vibrant energy – this prayer of Kierkegaard is for you.

He was writing in Denmark around the time George Williams was launching the Y.M.C.A. in England, and though his writings weren’t that popular when the Paris Basis was being crafted, Kierkegaard was “discovered” after the horrific tumult of the Great War, which was a shining moment for the Y, but also a dying of the world’s hope for peace in the world.

The Holocaust, the Atomic Bomb, the Cold War, global terrorism, genocides – this reality of YMCA members around the world ought to still way heavy on all Y members – in solidarity – and in accord with the prayer of Jesus in John 17:21 “that they all may be one.”

This means not just in our salvation and reconciliation but also in our empathy and practical actions of love.

And in that suffering is when we too often (if we quit avoiding this stark and disturbing reality) feel lost, in error, and without life. This is why the writings of Kierkegaard and his prayers continue to be sought out, for he seeks to get at the real, our actual lived existence, us, me, I – known and loved by God.

Maybe everything is fine for you in your life and family, your YMCA branch members and staff; but if we were going to be authentic, it’s not all we hope and pray for…yet; in the meantime keep honestly praying to the Lord, in humility and openness, like this prayer of Kierkegaard:

“Father in heaven, let your voice come to me, be heard by me, even though it overtake me where I live secluded and alone.

You, my Lord Jesus Christ, you who came into the world to save those who were lost, look for me even in my errors where I hide myself from you and from others; let me hear your voice, let me know and follow it.

You, O Holy Spirit, breathe for me in inexpressible sighs, bring life to me though I am a barren tree.

You who bears again to life those who are already dead, you who gives youth to the aged, create in me a new heart.

You who with motherly care protects everything in which there is a spark of life, send forth the growth that you would have for me.”

based on/adapted from “The Prayers of Kierkegaard,” no 47 by Ole Anthony

May the Grace and Peace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you.

Dear Y.M.C.A. :: ideas on living up to our name – for all

Dear Y.M.C.A. ::
Can we shine a light on the ways Christians can intentionally and inclusively strengthen the presence of Christ in the Y?

What if we gauged how well we are doing by listening to those who see the world differently than us?

Does it matter that we might see the world through different cultural lens and experience reality through different dimensions of diversity?

Can we still celebrate the complexity?

Can we and keep enduring together in a creative and sacrificial way?

Can we keep striving together towards flourishing for all?

This past week a member of our Central Branch YMCA passed away, he had been a member of the Y for over 80 years. What changes he must have seen in our organization! It makes my almost six years with the YMCA seem like a drop in the bucket.

When Phil joined the Y as a kid eight decades ago in Fort Wayne, we were much smaller, only in the urban part of the city, and had a very different logo from the one we have now.

Maybe we take for granted how much the world changed in the past eighty years, how tumultuous the eighty years prior to that had been, and even now we feel like the next eighty might be full of even more rapid change.

Somehow through the past seventeen decades of unprecedented historical and global upheavals, the YMCA has endured, adapted, and found ways to survive and serve their community successfully.

But like with any significant institution, there is a regular need to patch up our foundations, to nourish our roots, to remember how we got started, and both celebrate the origins story but also seriously contemplate how we embody it in these days, vigorously reflect on what is the kernel of truth and reality that we hold on to from our past and how does it become a cornerstone for future construction of our mission, how it becomes new seeds for a new harvest of faith, hope and love among millions more members.

Here’s a brief example of how the letters of our name – Y.M.C.A. – demonstrate a way we can honestly and respectfully remember and honor our origins, while at the same time revealing a starting point for how we have come to try – and failed – to responsibly care for all in our community.

Y.M.

Y.M. : Young Men – the origins of our organization in 1844 industrial London is the story of 22 year old George Williams and eleven other young men who felt burdened for the lost and struggling co-workers in their drapery factory and their resolve to do something about it.

C.

C. : George and his friends were Christian young men, British Protestant evangelicals – some from the Anglican tradition and others from the Presbyterian, Methodist and Dissenters – but they all held a common loyalty to Jesus Christ and felt called to not only save the souls of the other men like them in the factory, but to rescue them from dark abodes and illiteracy, from the vice-full saloons and fatherlessness, from despair to a new Christian mission and purpose for their life.

A.

A. : the Association work of Williams and the others was strengthened and nourished by their friendship, their commitment to associate on a regular schedule for each others encouragement and growth in Christian faith and wisdom – this in age of displacement, emigration, urban-industrialism, cultural upheaval, and economic disparity.

Some reflections on what this can mean for today:

Y. : youth-development is a key word for the purpose and existence of our organization – out of all the different ages of people we serve in a community, we know that most branches brag the most about their youth work, that without young people in the Y we’d have a too-quiet place that would feel like its not living up to its calling as the Y.

But, we have also vigorously pursued adults of every age – from the early decades of the Y’s existence – the young men in their twenties who started the Y became seasoned leaders in their 40’s and then 60’s, all along the way adapting the purpose and programs of the Y for older and older men.

And also younger men, eventually – almost literally inventing – teen mentoring and programs for all children.

We are nothing without our youth, we will never be able to live up to our name if we abandon youth-work or falter in our commitment to transform the lives of young-people – but we also know that we must serve adults of every age – especially the ones who directly affect the future of our youth.

M. : it was men laboring in the monotony of the drapery factory, verging on despair, who resolved to help out their fellow man through prayer, friendship, Christian religious activity, and social responsibility.

Even in those first decades Christian women were drawn to this work – of coming alongside men in the dark and helping them see the light, and then also finding ways for lifting up women who were lost and struggling.

The conversation has been ongoing since those early days: the ways that women are an essential part of the YMCA – a companionship and collaboration that has needed constant care, honest reflection, respectful apologies, and responsible maturing.

The YMCA has a legacy it ought to leverage for what it has learned along the way for how men and women can lead, care and serve together – not because it was perfect, but because they allowed critique, they put themselves in a position where the inequities could not be ignored and those with a fire in their bones would not let it drop, and kept the struggle going for more caring and honest mutuality, more respect by men for women who also shared the responsibility of our mission as the Y.

It’s not a surprise that there were/are those in the Y that resist the role of women in our organization, what we ought not to take for granted is those who persevered nonetheless.

C. : it is obvious that if not for the Protestant Christian faith and God’s calling of George Williams and his eleven friends, our Y.M.C.A. organization would have never gotten started.

No amount of downplaying the role of religion in society can undo the foundations that Christianity provides for the YMCA.

It is a massive foundation for what we have been building since 1844; the roots run deep and tenaciously grip the ground for the mighty YMCA tree that has been reaching into the skies these past seventeen decades.

Rather than making religion and Christianity a scapegoat for what ails us as a society, what if we found a way to be more responsibly honest about our evangelical Christian beginnings and foundation, and then respectfully and care-fully critique it while also gleaning the abundant wisdom that is there for the unprecedented challenges we face in the century ahead – a future that will always have vibrant religion- but will it also have Christian peacemakers and religious bridge-builders?

The YMCA has a national and global heritage of forging reconciliation and understanding between the many different kinds of Christian traditions as well as between the global faith-traditions.

If we drop the “C” in our name, if we choose to forget where we came from, we drain ourselves of the energy and identity the world needs from the Y right now – an organization with a Christian legacy and roots that uniquely works for peace among the intensely religious leaders and families of our community – for there will always be those who foment violence and use religion to hurt people – but where will the Y be on this urgent reality?

There are so many inclusive Christian Y leaders working hard every day to help us fulfill our mission that includes “building healthy spirit, mind and body for all” – rather than focusing on Christians who are perceived or vocal about their resistance to being “for all” what if we focused on all of the inclusive Christians that are doing this hard work everyday – and rather than make the “C” an object of division it became a sign of our humble and noble calling to serve everyone with sacrificial love?

What could Christians in the Y do to help their case?

Instead of pressing for more privileges or complaining about perceived restrictions, just do the best you can to bless everyone you are with in the Y and the community, do it out of your loyalty to Christ Jesus and for the joy of all who are in your sphere of influence.

Christians must learn how to honestly but responsibly live out their faith in public – not only amongst different kinds of Christians (ie Protestants and Catholics, liberals and conservatives, charismatic and liturgical, etc) but also respectfully and caringly with those of of there faith traditions – like our Jewish and Muslim family, our Buddhist and Hindu family, and many more. What could that look like?

A. : for all of our Associations, America is still one of the loneliest countries in the world, we more depressed and isolated than almost any other nation – rugged individualism for too many has become ruts of self-absorption.

Community leaders have been crying out at the lack of volunteers who are needed in our schools and local governments to help ensure safety and sustainability for all – schools are desperate for positive school involvement – youth sports needs coaches – neighbors need each other – but instead of associations that build our communities up we struggle to overcome the temptation of isolation and selfishness.

The A in our name – our ability and actions of associating and organizing can be an asset for constructively and creatively bringing together diverse groups of people that strengthens neighborhoods and friendships – or it can be a way for us to make money off of programs and keep our buildings open, but be cut off from the need in our community for organizations to nourish the coming together of people that empowers flourishing for all.

Many non-profits learn that if you have a money problem, it’s because you have a mission problem – mission drift often results from focusing on how to get more money to do more mission; the solution is spending more time with the people we are serving and serving with and continually adapting our resources to their benefit, their capacity for freedom and empowerment, lifting up their strengths and abilities so that they have the support they need to envision even more ways we can associate that nourishes flourishing for all.

What happens when millions more people associate with the the Y.M.C.A. but don’t cleanly fit in with the Y, with the M, with the C, and with the A?

Every organization that grows rapidly has to continually discuss and adapt how to keep their core while also expanding who they are for – and at the heart of the Y.M.C.A. is a worthy origins story – and legendary heros – that our world needs to benefit from today more than ever – but not in a restrictive way, but in an open way, since that was marked their life too – always reaching out to “take the stranger by the hand” and bring them closer so that they become neigbhors, friends, and co-laborers in our work.

When older members complain about the unruly youth in our branch, though we are tempted to come down hard on those teens, what we know we really ought to do is invite those easily-irritated grown ups to draw closer to these young adults that are acting up in order to get attention – that is why the Y is here – to draw closer to the teens who need it most.

When men in the organization think to highly of themselves, when they are too guarded or prideful, when their competition and work-a-holic attitudes get in the way of the true mission of the YMCA, do we castigate the men and seek to replace them or engage them and confront them and lovingly draw close in order to help them mature?

When men in the Y get pouty and passive-aggressive, when they get easily offended and complaining, when they get self-absorbed or melancholy, does that mean we look down on them or draw closer?

Just as there will always be a central role for youth in the YMCA, so there will always be a central role for men.

What about when Christians in our movement get in the way of equity and inclusion?

What about Christians who you know are bigoted and prejudiced?

What about Christians who seem to resist change and are uncomfortable with diversity?

What about Christians who get on your nerves and easily offend you?

And what about all the inclusive Christians who are quietly doing the work of youth development, healthy living and social responsibility in a caring, honest, respectful and resonsibile way?

What about all the Christians that are at the fore-front of the YMCA becoming an anti-racist and multi-cutulral organization?

There have always been Christians in the YMCA who have resisted change and inclusion; but there have always been Christians who have fomented the change for greater diversity, inclusion and equity – so many of them are among the leaders that have helped us continue not only learn how to be “for all” but more importantly “with all.”

What about branches that have forgotten how to work together?

What about associations that disregard neighboring associations?

What about parts of our movement that seem to be against others?

What happens when there are divisions in our movement between big city associations and small town branches?

What happens when diverse community branches are misunderstood by mono-culture branches?

What happens when financially successful associations and branches turn their back on struggling ones?

As an association, we have so many ways we’ve failed each other – mostly because we are all too human; but we also have amazing stories of resiliency and sacrifice for each other across our country and the world.

What would it look like for more of our alliances in the USA movement to become stronger – not only for our most vulnerable branches and associations, but also for global movements that we are called to love, serve and care? Thank God we already have examples of this happening!

What if our associating efforts not only deepen our ability to engage the most broken communities in our regions, but also connect us to the most hurting places across the world?

What if our associations continued to enter into difficult relationships in order to learn from each other humbly, repenting as often as needed, and demonstrating a sacrificial love that our neighbors and world so desperately need, and that was a model for George Williams and his friends when they started building the foundation of the Y.M.C.A.

Dear Y.M.C.A. :: let’s shine a light on the ways Christians can intentionally and inclusively strengthen the presence of Christ in the Y. How? We can gauge how well we are doing by listening to those who see the world differently than us – and though we might see the world through different cultural lens and experience reality through different dimensions of diversity we can still celebrate the complex and enduring, creative and sacrificial ways we together keep striving towards flourishing for all.

The 5 Steps for Young Men becoming Christians in Association – by George Williams

What kind of spiritual vitality marked the founding of the YMCA in 1844? With what we learn about Williams and his steps for building a “healthy spirit” with those who worked near him, what is God’s Spirit stirring in you? 

How might you adapt these “steps” for your spirit-work in your Y, for moving the spirit-health of your branch and association forward?

  1. Each Young Man first assumed a special care for certain unconverted friends.
  2. He would then regularly and by name pray for each one.
  3. He would speak to them on serious matters.
  4. He would persuade them to accompany him to church.
  5. He would urge them to sample the prayer meeting or a Bible study group.

This list is found in chapter six of Clyde Binfield’s book George Williams and the YMCA, where he outlines the many factors that led up to June 6, 1844 and the founding of the Young Men’s Christian Association in London England (pgs. 110-111).

Binfield observes that it wasn’t just the “steps” that contributed to the early and enduring success of the YMCA, but also the character and charisma of the founding men, specifically marking the personal leadership and spirituality of George Williams. 

George Williams as a young man

The 1840’s “were ready for this” as Binfield writes, “a decade notable for movement”. And, as George Williams records in his diary “Oh shout God is at work…”

Binfield goes on to comment about the “steps”:

Such a system makes sense of aspects of William’s diary; there was something businesslike in it, at once quite rational and wholly Evangelical.

Yet no system, least of all involving ‘soul welfare’, can work unless the personalities concerned are sympathetic as well as powerful.

It might have required a system to make Williams abstain from gluttony or jump earlier out of bed.

It needed no such thing to make him deeply anxious for his fellows.

With this qualification, it is possible to see a development in intensity and spiritual awareness (which is not quite the same thing) amongst the Christians at Hitchcock, Rogers.

Here’s some of the paragraph Binfield writes about Williams:

…George Williams show[ed] the abundant geniality which impressed all who met him.

There was a genuineness about him which transcended other qualities.

Without this the atmosphere at St. Paul’s Churchyard would have been intolerable.

With it, the activities of the first Christian Young Men became natural, even unremarkable, and entirely acceptable.

There was, moreover, a persistence about Williams which only a strong character and formed intelligence could resist.

The young man was manifestly good at his job and he was no fool, despite the crevices in his intellectual armory.

From the first his ability in harnessing, utilizing, and keeping the abilities of more articulate men, and better organizers of greater men of the world, is striking.

This was partly the good businessman’s ability to delegate authority without abdicating responsibility.

Partly it was an extension of the good draper’s sixth sense – an ability to sum up and mentally to clothe his fellow man.

It was certainly the one thing needful to transmute the activieis at No. 72, St. Paul’s Churchyard into a Young Men’s Christian Association.

George Williams as a successful businessman

With what we learn here about Williams and his steps for building a “healthy spirit” with those who worked near him, what is God’s Spirit stirring in you?

How might you adapt these “steps” for your spirit-work in your Y, for moving the spirit-health of your branch and association forward?

What are some obstacles that seem to be in your way? 

What inspires you about Williams and his “steps” of faith? 

What kind of transformation might happen in you and those around you if you stepped courageously forward, like George and his friends did in 1844?